I can say with 94% certainty that pretty much every guy who has ever stepped in a gym has felt inferior at some point (probably apart from The Rock & Charles Martin).
At one time or another, I and every other guy have thought they were:
- Not strong enough
- Not lean enough
- Not fit enough
- Not skilled enough
- Not muscular enough
You might strongly identify with one, some or all of the above. Sometimes the culture of the gym you go to can influence which one hits you the most.
I have a client who is scared to be seen with me and asks not to go to certain areas of the gym or at certain times because his ‘mates’ will judge him.
While feelings of inadequacy can be normal, they are even worse in the age of social media.
Social media (especially Instagram) has and will continue to destroy the minds of generations to come. It is without a doubt a huge contributing factor to the body image anxiety experienced by many men today.
If I felt I could sustain a business without it, I’d be off it in a flash.
‘Fitness influencers’ and muscle models are set up as idols, paragons of perfection, that we, the proletariat are supposed to aspire to.
These idols are false Gods.
Their power is sustained by photoshop and anabolic steroids (you would never know it though).
Here’s an open secret.. 90% of your favourite male fitness personalities are on steroids.
Hell, I’d say 80% of the biggest and most in-shape guys at your gym are using steroids (again, you would never know).
No matter how many protein shakes and programmes you buy from them, you will never look like them.
Just accept it.
While their feeds are chock-full of posts mentioning their protein supplement, pre-workout, and beast-mode workouts, they will never mention the steroid cycle they used to actually get their results.
These unrealistic (and often unattainable) ideals can cause men to go down the dark route of steroids and it’s numerous, well documented side-effects… including infertility, man boobs and small balls!
(It’s ironic that in the quest to become a superman, you can literally lose your balls.)
I myself have considered going down the steroid route, but always get dissuaded by the long list of dangerous and dramatic side effects.. (I prefer not to have man-boobs if I’m honest).
One way to address this anxiety is to go on a social media ‘detox’.
Unfollow the muscle models.
Unfollow the ‘beast-mode, what’s your excuse?!’ bodybuilding pages.
Get rid of the unrealistic expectations.
Realise that your body will probably never look like a Hollywood actor’s.
They get paid millions of pounds to train and look good. You work in an office in Hammersmith.
Get in the gym. Learn how to train, eat properly and do things the right way.
Keep doing it until you start to see results.
Getting in the gym and actually training might not stop you from having insecurities, but they’ll fade into a background buzz rather than a major anxiety issue.
Using the insecurity as fuel is a healthy way to get rid of it. Instead of mentally masturbating over Simeon Panda’s page, address the weakness.
If you’re not strong enough, lift heavy weights so you can get stronger.
If you’re fat, start intermittent fasting and lifting weights until you’re not fat anymore.
I’ve had numerous clients go from overweight to lean and completely turn around their confidence in every area of life.
(Check my instagram for before-and-afters.. yeah, I know, ironic I use Instagram).
If you feel like the above resonates with you, you’re not alone!
Feel free to message me (firstname.lastname@example.org) or DM me on my instagram account (jumpliftsprint).